Who should be happy?

I remember in my student days, while I was taking Family Psychology, our teacher, who was a psychotherapist, asked us: Who should be the happiest member of the family? Trying to take a guess, we called out: the kids! — No. The Husband? — No! The mother? — Yes, The mother should be happy!
At that moment, because of my Soviet mindset, it seemed counterintuitive. But when we started to recollect the past, we could have easily admitted that every moment we saw happiness and contentment on our mother’s face made us happy and confident. We knew that everything was alright. In those moments, we felt like little conquerors of the Earth. I felt so much energy that if I had been given a fulcrum, I could have moved the Earth. Our mother’s mood, if it was upbeat, happy, and enthusiastic, was a great source of our confidence and energy.
People sometimes underestimate their power to make other people happy, especially their partners. I speak about energy, not as something abstract, but as something you can feel when you see contentment and happiness on your partner’s face, and you are the source and reason for it. This energy will be returned to you twice as strong. This is what makes humans resilient and powerful, and it is a cumulative effect.
Don’t be greedy, go beyond yourself!

Mar/22/2020